Monday, June 12, 2017
“If you’re too comfortable, it’s time to move on. Terrified of what’s next? You’re on the right track.”
–Susan Fales Hill
Recently, one of my clients came to me to discuss her career. She has been working for years now in the guest star world and felt like she was hitting a ceiling. She wanted more but had become so comfortable with where she was that whenever she got a series regular appointment, she froze. She felt like she was “pressing her luck” and should be happy with where she was, even though her gut told her there was more for her beyond her comfort zone.
Over the years I have heard this countless times. In life, we come to something – be it a career or a relationship – scared, wanting it to happen, nervous it won’t, but determined to make it work. So, we put forth enormous effort and, eventually, something that used to seem foreign and daunting becomes easy and more commonplace. A world we used to only fantasize about becomes our reality.
For my client, she went from moving to Los Angeles, to getting reps, to booking some co-stars, to booking guest stars. Each of those steps took time, effort, and a leap of faith, but eventually all of them became “normal” and comfortable to her. However, instead of forging ahead and focusing on the next wrung of her ladder, she stopped herself. She allowed a false narrative to define her. The idea that she did not deserve more. Eventually, she ended up realizing that her “freezing” in these series regular auditions was just her fear trying to keep her “safe.” Just beyond the fear was an exciting opportunity to challenge herself, work hard, and pull herself up to that next wrung. This realization was huge for her and I am so proud that she is now boldly going for what she wants without anything attached to it other than her desire for more.
So, my friends, I challenge you to push yourself out of your comfort zone! Dare yourself to be uncomfortable! You just might find something amazing waiting for you on the other side.