“Nolite te bastardes carborundorum. Don’t let the bastards grind you down.”
Margaret Atwood, The Handmaid’s Tale
The holiday season and the end of the year mean getting together with friends and family. You might not have seen these individuals in a couple of years because of the ongoing Covid-19 pandemic. While this is mainly a joyous reunion, every now and then a third cousin twice removed or even a close family member or friend, just does not get it. They may make hurtful statements like: “When are you going to give up that acting thing?” “Are you ever going to get a real job?” This same ignorant person watches television daily, listens to music in the car, and loves going to see live theatre. They simply do not understand the higher calling of life in the arts.
It is okay to both celebrate the holidays and protect your heart from these poor bitter souls. Perhaps that means avoiding them at the party, not attending at all, or just making sure your own tribe celebrates accordingly. Actors are on their own path with their own unpredictable timing. Ann Dowd, whose family wanted her to go to medical school, did not receive wide acclaim until age 60 when she was cast as Aunt Lydia in The Handmaid’s Tale. The late Alan Rickman’s first film role was Die Hard at age 42. The real beauty and glory are in the everyday process of doing the work as an actor. Focus on that and let go of the noise. We at Shari Shaw Studios wish you a wonderful end of the year and holiday season.